Monday morning, “M” (my boyfriend) and I had a pretty intense blow out. The conversation ended with me not knowing if we were breaking up or not. I had a pretty hard day and am fortunate to have the best friends that I have. It would have been near impossible to make it through the day without them.
It was also fortunate that I only had one 90-minute session scheduled in the office. It was really difficult to get grounded and centered with so much on my mind. But one of the aspects of my work that I love is that sessions sometimes shift things for not only my client but myself as well. Getting myself into a calm, centered, grounded state of neutrality can do wonders for shifting my vibration.
Monday night I decided to put on my headphones and go for a walk around town. I really enjoy an evening walk around downtown on beautiful nights; and I feel very fortunate to live in such a wonderful place.
My walk lead me to a bench outside the courthouse which is directly in the center of town. It’s a nice little spot with some grass and right near the main intersection of town. People watching is very good there … and people watching in this town is always very interesting.
The entire walk my mind was focused on my relationship. Wondering what was going to happen; where it was headed. Still not feeling so great about things. Until a sudden shift in thought occurred …
I have been, what I call, a ‘student’ of the Law of Attraction for a few years now. Primarily studying the teachings of Abraham. I greatly enjoy their teachings and they resonate greatly with me. To summarize in an extremely over simplified way, their message is that “Life is supposed to feel good.” So I intentionally began to change my thoughts, thereby changing my vibration. The internal monologue went a little something like this …
“My relationship with “M” is in a rough place right now. Things are not at all where I hoped / thought they would be at this point. Our conversation this morning was tough and I really don’t know where we are headed.”
“Things weren’t always this rocky. I remember the first night we hung out. How great it felt to really connect with someone on so many levels. I remember being nervous and scared and excited. I remember our first kiss. We hung out for hours talking, kissing, cuddling, laughing and getting to know each other … it seemed magical.”
“I remember how we couldn’t see each other for a several days because of prior commitments. But on the 6th day of not seeing each other “M” snuck away for a couple hours just to come over so we could see each other for a little bit. I remember how excited we were whenever we saw each other; the huge smiles on both our faces. I remember the cute (and sexual) text messages we would send one another. I remember smiling and blushing whenever anyone asked my about “M” and how we were doing. I was like a giddy teenager.”
I began to think about the wedding we went to together. A friend of mine got married in a beautiful outdoor ceremony and reception. It was such a wonderful afternoon. We held hands, kissed, smiled a lot, and the best part, for me, was our first dance as a couple. It was an amazingly special day … and I was falling in love.
Back in the present, on the bench, I smiled. Love. I felt love. And somehow in that moment I knew, that no matter what happens with the relationship, I had felt love. How lucky am I!! What a wonderful thing to feel love. Even if it is for simply a brief moment of time in my life. To find moments of love is the highest degree of “life is supposed to feel good.” When we find these moments of love, we are in alignment with our higher self; and that feels amazing.
In that moment, a sense of peace washed over me. I had shifted my vibration and was no longer in a negative space. I always have the option of re-framing a situation or experience to see either the positive or the negative. Sometimes it is hard to find the positive; but with practice it gets easier to shift. I was glad to remember that as I sat on the bench and happy that I was able to put into practice what I have been learning.
I got up from the bench and walked around town a little more; but now in a better emotional space. I walked around knowing (and feeling) that no matter what was to come, I had experienced something wonderful. Regardless of the outcome, I will carry that with me always. There are some who are not fortunate or open enough to allow love into their life. I am lucky enough to have found it again. Yes … again …
I loved my ex-husband. On some level I still do, and probably always will. Our separation was amicable, but it was still tough. We’ve known each other since high school; which means we’ve known each other for half our lives. Plus we lived together for almost 9 of the 12.5 years we were together. Ending a relationship like that was very difficult (still is at times) and made me question love … and whether I would feel it again.
I did. And I am glad. If it is to end here, I will walk away with amazing memories from our time together. In the grand scheme of things it might be considered a very brief period of time. But love has no concept of time. Corny, yes … but nonetheless true.
The bottom line is that I felt it … and that will remain forever part of my heart, my spirit, my vibration. And because of that, I am ready and strong enough for whatever happens next in my life. I am eternally grateful for this experience and feel fortunate that “M” and I met.
I wish all of you much love.
